Over the years I’ve connected with a dozen or so professional psychics and channelers, and many more intuitives who don’t participate in the commercial side of it. One thing that stands out as a burgeoning challenge to the metaphysically-minded community is the aspect of intimacy.

Intimacy has been sometimes framed as “Into Me See.” At one end of the spectrum, intimacy is our capacity and desire to be fully seen, and to connect with others with naked openness. At the other end of the spectrum, “Stay Outta My Business!”

You can have psychic and heart-based consciousness seated in humans all along the intimacy spectrum. People aren’t completely unchangeable in this regard, but at the highest and lowest 20%, people don’t want to change it.

So imagine a super-open polyamorous go-with-the-flow shaman who communes with goddesses working to heal Earth. Imagine this woman trying to connect with a guarded asexual 50yo “Type A” high-achieving executive who had an extra-terrestrial contact and meditates to connect with ET’s. How might they experience each other?

Forming Groups

I was once part of an Intuition group that met for years. Its 6-8 members developed enough trust to eventually meditate together, and eventually conduct group healing sessions. These sessions were surprisingly powerful. It was organized this way, with individuals shifting roles as they felt appropriate in each session:

• The Target Person: the focus of the group’s efforts would stay open, solicit guides & helpers, and observe
• 2 Healers: these would be physically near The Target, doing energy work and so on
• 2-3 Free-wheelers: these would meditate, channel loving energy, connect with invisible helpers, or fill the space with healing energy
• 1 Bouncer: secured the boundaries of the space. This person also acted as a guardian, responding to any ripples in the space that did not belong there.

You can imagine this playing out. When the healers said they were done, the group sat for a few minutes gathering their thoughts before each person shared what they experienced.

The primary challenge I faced was that I was a very high-intimacy person. Any such group could operate with all the intimacy of a landscaping crew, or its members could use sessions to ultimately merge as an evolving collective consciousness. Guess which way I wanted to go.

Telepathy and intuition only resolve these issues when people are already strong enough in themselves to discuss and manage boundaries effectively. Which is to say, I suspect the current answer is to establish the intimacy issue up front, matching members to groups accordingly. The absence of this deliberateness seems a big part of the tension that either compromises a group’s potential or shakes it apart entirely.

I think many expect it’s the strength of people’s intuitive gifts, their spiritual “purity,” or the greatness of their intelligences that determine compatibility. But this is not what I’ve found. My ultimate point is not to insist More Intimacy is Better. I don’t believe that. But harmonies and synergies seem more likely when the amount of desired closeness is shared.

What Possibilities Are You Open To?

Looking strictly at this Intimacy variable, the same interpersonal challenges we face in our daily lives will exist between metaphysically/spiritually-oriented people. Safety requires limits, yet even maturely negotiated boundaries will employ words that mean something different to each person.

What do you want to do with the relationship? Where do you want it to go? What will it facilitate, or build? What’s possible between people will be mediated a great deal by how close they’re willing to get.